Since I was a teenager, I was always looking for love from the people I loved the most. I was brought up in a family who did not know that saying “I love you” is healthy for any human being. I don’t remember being told ” I love you” from my parents, so I grew up never believing that I was lovable.
When my husband fell in love with me I was surprised.
As I didnt believe in myself, I couldnt believe in his love either. This lack of trust moved our relationship to a downhill.
I started to compare my love life with others and I recognized that this is not just my story. It was an epidemic trauma in most new couples that I knew around me. I thought to myself, “If what I want is “love”, I can start asking for that? Then I started to talk about my emotional needs with him and let him know how important it is to me to hear and say, “I love you.” Our relationship improved a little bit, but still I was not fulfilled and something was missing in me.
As a long life learner I started studying books, taking courses, consultations, coaching sessions, and generally raised my awareness.In another word I started to changemyself, and consequently my whole world started to change.
The most fulfillment happened when I found my life purpose. And after that when I started educating myself to become a life coach.
In the midst of my coaching studies, one night, at about 1 a.m., I fell into bed too exhausted to do anything at all, not even to brush my teeth. Shortly after, my husband came in. Guess what?! He not only took time to brush his teeth and do his prayers, but he also took time and brushed his hair. I was wondered how he could do all these things even though I knew he was ready to collapse as well.
Seconds after this question, instantly I got my answer. I remembered he was committed to brush his hair every single night in front of the mirror, and he was always committed to keep his commitments to himself!
This new realization helped me to get the answers to my other question that I had in my mind for years:
I had always wondered why my husband was more loved and respected by others than I was. That night I realized it was because he respected and loved himself more than I loved and respected myself. So if I was not getting enough love, it was because I did not love myself enough. As a result, I was always hungry for love.
If I was thinking that I was not receiving enough respect, it was because I was not respecting myself.
And if I was thinking nobody believed me, it was because I did not believe in myself.
That night was a turning point in my life. And I got the main key to real happiness, true love and peace. If I don’t love myself, I will not be able to get and receive other’s love. If I don’t love myself, I do what ever I can to escape from myself, I might do so many things for others and burn myself out, and internally feel like a sacrificed person. I might feel like I have devoted my life for others and nobody appreciates that and always feel unhappy. If I don’t love myself, I might do whatever I can to get the attention from others.
When you love yourself, you will become more attractive. You will glow, and you will smile more often. Only then, will you receive more love from the world. Moreover, when you fill your own cup with love, it will start to overflow and spill out all around you. As you are looking at yourself and others from the perspective of love, all hate and negative thoughts will disappear.
Believe it or not, you are the only person in the world who can give you the love you deserve. I am not encouraging you to be selfish. I just want you to see who you are and who you want to be. I want you to live your life to the fullest and always remember to appreciate your gift of life.
Now that I love myself,so I can love you with no judgment. I want to let you know when I am saying ”I love you for who you are,” I truly love you and want the best for you.
If you choose love coaching, I will help you to start honoring yourself in a deeper way. Your love will flow to the world. You will experience peace, satisfaction and more laughter in your life. You will Love to Live & Live to Love.